Inside the Story of Three Dads Raising Twins Together in Los Angeles — and Why They Say, “We’re Not a Throuple, We’re a Family”
In a world where families come in every shape and size, three Los Angeles dads are redefining what love and parenting can look like — and doing it with warmth, grace, and humor. Mark Ebinger, his husband Moke Coffey, and Mark’s ex-husband, Tom Freeman, are raising 8-year-old twins Beau and Coy as one united family. While their setup might sound unconventional at first, for them, it’s nothing more than an arrangement built on deep friendship, respect, and a shared devotion to the children they love.
Mark and Tom were together for years before their paths diverged romantically, but they never stopped being partners in parenting. When Mark married Moke, rather than separating their lives completely, the three men decided to stay close — literally. Mark and Moke live in the main house, while Tom resides in the guesthouse just steps away. Together, they’ve created what Mark affectionately calls their “modern-day Party of Five.”
“When Tom and I divorced, it was really important to us to keep the family together,” Mark shared in an interview with People. “I think all of us really put family first. We all get along really great. I mean, it’s unusual. I know it’s an unusual setup or it appears to be unusual, but I think it’s far more relatable and mainstream than it would seem like at first glance.”
What makes their family stand out is how seamlessly they blend affection and boundaries. They’re not a romantic trio or “throuple,” as social media might assume — they’re co-parents and friends who share one beautiful goal: raising happy, grounded children. Their mornings often start with the twins bouncing between houses, grabbing breakfast in one and homework help in another. The three dads rotate school drop-offs, family dinners, and bedtime stories, proving that teamwork — not traditional structure — is what truly builds a home.
Moke, who married into the family, says it’s all about perspective. “When you lead with love, you realize that family isn’t defined by labels,” he explained. “The kids just know they’re surrounded by people who adore them.”
The trio’s relationship dynamic has even inspired their community. Friends and neighbors see them not as an oddity but as an example of harmony — three adults who’ve figured out how to prioritize the emotional well-being of their kids over pride or convention. There’s no jealousy, no tension, just a shared rhythm that’s evolved naturally over time.
Tom, the ex-husband and proud co-dad, says communication is the secret. “We never let ego come between what’s best for Beau and Coy,” he said. “It’s not about who’s right or wrong — it’s about what keeps the kids happiest.”
Their home is often filled with laughter, from game nights to pool parties, where all three dads and the twins share moments that many traditional families strive for. To them, the beauty lies not in fitting a mold but in breaking it with love.
The story of Mark, Moke, and Tom isn’t just about modern parenting — it’s about evolving definitions of family. They’ve shown that families don’t have to follow old blueprints to thrive. As long as there’s love, communication, and commitment, family can exist in any form.
In today’s world, where so many families are navigating blended relationships, these three dads stand as proof that love really can rewrite the rules. As Mark put it best: “Family isn’t about who’s under one roof — it’s about who shows up, every single day, with love.”
